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Love is sweet but at times can be sour (and in some cases bitter). An unfulfilling relationship or a heartbreak can take any emotional turn for you; as a consequence of which you can become quite vulnerable to what happens around you. This emotional frenzy can often leave you incompetent to make right decisions for yourself. You may become susceptible to act in ways that may cause immediate or long-term negative consequences.
What is Heartbreak?
Generally speaking, heartbreak is a mental and behavioural state wherein a person feels totally devastated owing to a loss. Each one of us may respond in a different way, however responses such as grief, immense sadness, hopelessness and withdrawal are common. One moment you may become totally accepting of the situation and another moment totally withdrawn. Confusion can surround, with no clue how to get over the emotional pain.
Heartbreak and the Psychological Response:
The emotional pain caused by a heartbreak/break-up is such that it triggers the brain in the same manner as when experiencing physical pain and then sets in the grief. Grief progresses in stages, stages that often overlap with each other. These are:
Denial: At first, you may Deny the whole situation (‘It is just a small fight. Everything will be fine soon’) as if nothing really happened.
Anger: However, then you notice that the other person is missing or the relationship is not the same anymore, this causes you Anger (‘What does he think of himself? I hate him’).
Bargain: In a quest, to turn off your anger and feel better you try to Bargain (‘If only I was more available, then maybe she would not have ended this’) trying to regain control over the situation.
Depression: After actively working to regain control but with no results, Depression sets in (‘Why am I even alive?’) and then a state of passiveness and inactivity follows where you start struggling with your thoughts and emotions. This is where you have to put in conscious effort to get back to life again. However, if you find yourself stuck with depressive thoughts and can’t move on, then talk to a psychologist or a mental health expert to help you cope with grief and come out of it.
Acceptance: The intention is to come to a state of Acceptance (‘We did have our differences and moving on is better for both of us’). Accepting it doesn’t necessarily means happiness or immediate upliftment but it does give you a sense of control over the choice you made and a path to move on in a healthy way.
So if you are also stuck in a similar situation, or wondering…how to deal with a breakup/heartbreak or how to move on in life after a heartbreak? Don’t prolong this emotional pain.
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