Where does the first societal interaction for an individual occur? It is the ‘Family’, the first form of society for a child. Family is like a mini society, through which the child learns the first interactions and experiences that later act as a blueprint for his/her wider societal interactions. This is where parenting is an important factor and acts as a major determinant of the child’s overall well-being including physical, social, emotional, academic, and intellectual development.

 

What is your Parenting Style?

 

Let us look into the different Child Rearing styles and what they encompass. Check for yourself, what sounds most like you!

 

- Authoritative Child Rearing: Read through these questions. Do they sound like you as a parent?

 
·         Are you attentive and sensitive to your child’s needs?
·         Do you have an emotionally fulfilling relationship with your child?
·         Do you practice firm control and regulation with your child reasonably?
·         Do you encourage developing maturity and self-regulation in your child?
·         Do you give them appropriate freedom to develop autonomy and self-reliance?
·         Do you encourage your child to express their thoughts, feelings and desires?
·         Do you actively consider the child’s perspective and make him/her a part of decision making?
 

If you said YES mostly, then it is more likely that you maybe following the Authoritative Child Rearing style. Following an Authoritative Child Rearing style may have the following outcomes for your child.

 

·         Self control

·         Task persistence

·         Cooperativeness

·         High self-esteem

·         An Upbeat mood

·         Enhanced academic achievement

·         Responsiveness to parents’ views

·         Cognitive, social and moral maturity

·         A positive emotional view of self and others

 

- Authoritarian Child Rearing: Read through these questions. Do they sound like you as a parent?

 

·         Are you cold and distant with your child?

·         Do you often yell, shout, command or criticise your child?

·         Do you make the decisions for your child and expect them to accept it                      unquestionably?

·         If your expectations are not met, do you resort to force and punishment?

·         Do you have excessively high expectations from your child?

·         Do you exercise psychological control on your child?

·         Is your love and affection towards the child contingent on his/her behaviour?

 

If you said YES mostly, then it’s more likely that you maybe following the Authoritarian Child Rearing style. Following an Authoritarian Child Rearing style may have the following outcomes for your child.

 

·         Anxiousness

·         Unhappiness

·         Lower self-esteem

·         Lower self-reliance

·         Resort to force when they want things their way

·         Dependency

·         Easily overwhelmed by challenging tasks

·         Typically struggle with academics

·         Suppressed self-expression and independence.

·         Adjustment problems involving anxious, withdrawn, defiant and aggressive behaviours.

 

 

- Permissive Child Rearing: Read through these questions. Do they sound like you as a parent?

 

·         Are you warm and accepting towards your child?

·         Do you tend to be uninvolved in your child’s day-to day activities?

·         Are you overindulgent or inattentive with your child?

·         Do you exercise little control in your child’s behaviour?

·         Do you give your child too much freedom to make decisions even when they are not capable to do so?

 

If you said YES mostly, then it’s more likely that you maybe following the Permissive Child Rearing style. Following a Permissive Child Rearing style may have the following outcomes for your child.

 

·         Impulsiveness

·         Disobedience

·         Rebellious nature

·         Overly demanding

·         Dependence on adults

·         Reduced task persistence

·         Poor academic achievement

·         More anti-social behaviour

·         Difficulty in adulthood with their identities as limited exploration.

 

 

- Uninvolved Child Rearing: Read through these questions. Do they sound like you as a parent?

 

·         Are you low in acceptance with your children?

·         Do you tend to be less involved with your child?

·         Do you exercise little control in your child’s day-to-day activities?

·         Do you often have indifferences with your child about their behaviour and freedom?

·         Are you emotionally detached with your child?

·         Do you tend to be depressed or stressed which leaves you with little time and energy for your children?

·         Do you have difficulty enforcing rules for children?

·         Are you less likely to monitor the child’s whereabouts and activities?

 

If you said ‘YES’ mostly, then it’s more likely that you maybe following the Uninvolved Child Rearing style. Following an Uninvolved Child Rearing style may have the following outcomes for the child.

 

·         Firstly, it is a form of child maltreatment called Neglect

·         It disrupts virtually all aspects of development

·         Difficulties in school achievement

·         Depression, anger and antisocial behaviour

 

If you are wondering which the best parenting style is, then I am sure you may have some fair idea by now. Research and practice suggest that Authoritative Child Rearing style is one of the best ways of parenting and results in a wholesome development of the physical, social, emotional, intellectual and moral aspects of the child.

Well! There can also be a possibility that you don’t fit in one specific parenting style. This is for the simple reason that you might change your parenting style from time to time or situation to situation, sometimes adopting a parenting style that varies from your dominant style, but that is alright!

 

To further explore the tips to promoting emotional well-being in children, read https://www.richpsych.com/blogs/are-you-watching-your-interaction-with-your-child!/NVhSQUdM/