What to do if my boyfriend gets harsh and physically abusive. I love him but I can't decide what to do as his behaviour is making me depressed and still I am not able to do anything about it. I wan't all this to end but how???

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Last Updated: 26/01/2019 at 04:18PM

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Jan 06th, 2019 11:42AM

Srishti Narula

Hi! Thank you for your question. It indeed can be very tough to face abuse from people we love. I also understand that you want to leave but that is also difficult to do because of so many conflicing feelings. You have made the decision to leave and this is a great step in caring towards yourself. I would recommend to take steps to ensure your safety when you tell him about your decision. This could include meeting in a public place to talk about this, seeking help from a friend with whom you can stay till you feel safe. We can discuss more of these techniques customised for your situation if you book a session with me. We can also talk about other challenges that you are facing when executing your decision to leave. 
Jan 21st, 2019 05:53PM

Mertha Nyamande

Hi! This is one of the most difficult aspects of life when we are hurt by the people we love and care about. Research shows that people who hurt others are hurting themselves. The unfortunate part is you may feel it is your fault or your responsibility to help them. Although it may be difficult no one should be abused for whatever reason. A caring approach would be to help them find the right support while you remain safe. This may include time apart if possible to allow a clearer appraisal of the situation. Ideally, violence should be reported but this is usually a very sensitive area, where intimacy issues are concerned. I strongly advice you seek support and address this before it gets worse for the both of you. Remember, you have a responsibility to yourself first, because without you, nothing else matters for you.
Jan 26th, 2019 04:18PM

Anam Mukaddam

Hello! Always remember that you need to stand up for yourself as no one is ever going to do it for you if you can't do it for yourself. It may be difficult to end the relation but that's the only way out. Learn to fight for yourself always because each of us are fighting our own battles and won't be able to fight for anyone else. You need to speak to him about it and make it clear to him that he can't treat you like that and if he thinks he has a right to then you must show him that he doesn't and walk away from him. If you need any help then you can contact me here on the website and I can help you out.