Me and my Ex of almost 4 years had a mutual break up at the end of September 2020 and I suggested that we take time apart to really figure out ourselves, we tried to talk as friends for a couple months and she through we should get back together but I was too afraid to say anything because I felt I needed more time to make that decision. At the end of November she said she did not want to talk anymore and she was enjoying her time for herself as I was reaching out to her when I felt anxious from school. I respected her decision and said that if she wanted to talk again I would leave it up to her to reach out. When we had initially broken up we also said that there could be a possibility of us getting back together but we needed time. She wished me a merry christmas and we had a breif text conversation about how our plans for after we graduate university were going. The conversation seemed to be very enjoyful from both sides. Since then I have still been in complete no contact, no checking her social media, viewing stories, or liking posts as I have read that this is what must be done for an ex to want to reach out to you and miss you. I have not heard anything since Christmas and I am becoming increasingly anxious that she has moved on when I have now realized that I want to get back together. What do I do? Reach out to her through a letter showcasing things I have learned since our breakup and that I am open to talking again or should I just keep giving her that full space in the hopes that she will reach out? ?
Last Updated: 25/02/2021 at 03:21AM
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Feb 25th, 2021 03:21AM
Hari Pal Singh Saini
Dear, Once you have taken time after all the wise talk, waiting is the better option. Having a usual conversation of exchange of welfare and whereabouts, in between, without any mention of relationship, should continue, as a routine. At the same time wishful thinking without base may lead to other related complications and issues, best to have a discussion with your psychologist.