It has been two and a half months since I broke up with my girlfriend and I am not able to move on thinking about her has become an obsession and I can't control my thoughts about her even when I want to. I know this is over and I also know that there is no future with her but still I am not able to forget about her. I really want to get out of the situation??
Last Updated: 18/01/2019 at 10:59AM
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Jan 17th, 2019 11:21AM
It's very natural for you to feel her absence and you need to give yourself sometime to get over her. Try to figure out what you would like to do and indulge yourself in to it. Discuss this with a counselor on Rich Psych if you feel it's difficult to cope up with it alone. You need to help yourself first in order to let others help you. Go for a walk, meet up with your friends whom you are very close to, think about your future, spend time with your family and siblings if you have. Always remember that life is too short to wait for someone and if a person doesn't stay in your life for a long period of time, it's best that they left. There is someone out there meant only for you, all you have to do is be patient and wait for the right one to come your way. We are here to help you out so you can reach out to me on the website if you just need to share your feelings and vent it out. Happy to help!
Jan 17th, 2019 05:40PM
Glenn Cajetan Nunes
Breaking up is always painful. You will feel anger, hurt, and frustration; like it’s the end of the world. We love, we care, we depend, we share and when it is gone – WE WILL FEEL THE LOSS. It’s the best relationship - when people share the same feelings for each other. BUT when this is not so – it's best that the relationship breaks up – it helps prevent more intense pain and hurt in the future. IT’S OK TO FEEL THE PAIN, IT’S PART OF LIVING LIFE. Every cloud has a silver lining – every situation has its good. Right now it is difficult to cope and you wonder how you will carry on – but you need to HANG IN THERE buddy. Start living the other parts of your life. Do what makes you happy, pursue your career, make new friends, etc. Time will heal and new beginnings will come. Take Care.
Jan 18th, 2019 10:59AM
Hello there! Hope you are feeling better. I would start with appreciating the fact that you are trying to deal with an issue proactively, which is a very courageous thing to do. Most people, especially the youth don't! Breakups are one of the most painful experiences in life, often close to losing someone. It can be a really painful and overwhelming experience for anyone to be in. I am sorry to hear that you had to go through it. As you said, it has been a couple of months since the breakup and you are still struggling to come out of the pain. As Anam said, coming out takes time. Time, as they say, is a good healer. But maybe not a complete healer. What usually works for people going through breakups is a distraction e.g. moving from the place, doing something that takes one's mind away (not the unhealthy ones like alcohol or drugs), spending time with others etc. If you feel that you have tried your best and that you have given adequate time to get over the pain and is still bothering you, the best thing to do is to consult a professional, online or in person. A good counselor or a therapist can help you overcome this situation with the minimum of pain and maximum of gains. And remember, when you say you want to forget her (which is often the advice given by others during times of breakups), we just can't forget people, especially people who would have taken a lot of space in our 'hearts'. What we actually seek is to reduce the pain. For that, we don't need to forget the person as such, we can remember the person and still feel not pained about it, which needs time as well as some efforts from the person. Help from a therapist makes this effort the best possible one. Just see if the pain is reducing, even if slightly so, then you are on the right track. If it is worsening or not reducing at all and affecting your life significantly, do take professional help, ASAP. Hope you get to deal with this pain as soon as possible and get going with life better than ever before. I wish you all the best. Take care!