I switched job and joined a new organization and was very excited, after working there the first one month was fine during which I learnt more about the organization, its work culture and my responsibilities. I was very excited about doing my best for the organization, however gradually I noticed that the work culture was not very defined. During the first month everybody was very friendly and overly good (at least to me) gradually I started noticing a lot of groupism and me being the target even when I had hardly spent any time there. Instead of enjoying my work and delivering my best I started feeling stressed about people back biting, spreading false rumors etc, it really impacted me for a very small mistake i made due to my lack of understanding about the organization functioning and how a complaint was made to the authorities by the very person who seemed to be the most friendly. This has been causing me a lot of stress and I really don’t know how to cope with this. I love what I do but can’t figure out how I can thrive in my workplace? ?

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Last Updated: 13/02/2019 at 10:33AM
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Feb 11th, 2019 03:12PM

Alina Tulsiani

Congratulations on getting a job that you’re happy doing! It’s a positive sign that you’re keen on enjoying your work, and this is an important thing which will help you thrive better at your job. It would be helpful for you to understand the organization’s culture through observation and going through the policies - that way your role and responsibilities become defined and gives you a framework to function. As you spend more time, you will get to know the culture better. As far as people are concerned, there will always be people not only at the work place, but in our personal life as well, who are different before us and behind our backs. Experiences with them will always teach one to be more cautious with trusting others and being prudent. So instead of being concerned about what might be said behind your back, focus on the task assigned to you and try to excel at it. Remember, it’s your work which is going to take you to greater heights, and for that you need to really neglect (yes! you read it right, it’s neglect) what others say or do behind your back. However, if it gets to a point where equations become abusive or it damages your self worth, consider talking to a mental health professional and informing the HR at work about damaging behaviours. All the best!
Feb 13th, 2019 10:33AM

Anam Mukaddam

Hello! It's very important for you to know that what is more important to you, your job or the people around you? If you choose your job then you need to understand that you need to give your best shot at work and ignore all that's happening around you as people tend to put down the one's who are the best. You need to stand up for yourself and make it clear to anyone who tries to blame you or complain about you. I think once u make it clear to even one person that he/she can't mess with you, everyone will get an idea of who they are trying to create problems for. Concentrate on your job and do your best and if you think that the people arenaffecting your performance then you shouldn't let them get over your head and affect you in any way possible as they are not important to you. Discuss this with your family, involve your parents about this and vent it out to them eveeyday about it so that you also will feel a little light on th head. If you ever feel the need to approach me then do book an appointment with me and we both can work this out.