I broke up with my girlfriend last month. It was an unhealthy relationship. We would get in constant fights and verbally abuse each other. I immediately wanted to get out of it so I broke it up her. Now she calls me everyday and cries that she wants to get back. I like her but I don’t want to be in that relationship. What should I do??
Last Updated: 09/06/2020 at 07:36PM
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Jun 09th, 2020 12:10PM
Glenn Cajetan Nunes
If you feel that it was an unhealthy relationship and YOU ARE SURE that you don’t want to be in a relationship with her, then it is best you tell her soon (in as delicate a way as possible). DECIDE CLEARLY if you still want to be her friend or want to stop all contact with her or whatever. She will be hurt but I feel it is only fair that she knows the truth, without being under an illusion - that you are still interested in a relationship with her. Time will heal wounds and it is better one is hurt now, than end up in a toxic relationship.
Jun 09th, 2020 04:34PM
It seems that though you liked the person but the experience with the person was not that good that you would have liked to stay in the relationship. Moreover, when a relationship ends it is hard on both partners. The important thing is to go through the process of what one feels during a break up period. When you are out of the situation you are better able to see things and realise how things can go further wrong if unnecessarily dragged. So, it's better to give yourself time to overcome the issue rather than going back to the same pattern. You can seek counselling if you feel the need to understand emotions in a better way. Hope that helped!!!
Jun 09th, 2020 07:36PM
Hari Pal Singh Saini
Dear, You need to be in consultation with your psychologist for proper understanding of the situation, see what is the possible way and define future course of action. Without such consultation you alone may not be in a position to foresee the implications involved. So do plan accordingly.